Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy
I offer couples therapy in Minnesota.
Relationships have natural ups and downs, and they take a great deal of work to maintain.
Over time, the excitement of new love transitions to the stability of mature love, and in each stage, our relationship faces new challenges.
Sometimes our connection to our partner falls off course for various reasons.
It can be simply growing apart after years of caregiving children, or it can involve the deep pain after the loss of trust with our partner.
Entering into couples therapy is complex and often one partner is more ready than the other.
There can be apprehension about sharing the intimate details of your relationship or fear of being judged or blamed.
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right or wrong. It is about building upon your relationship’s natural strengths and working together to determine how to shift away from unhelpful patterns.
It is about developing skills in communication and conflict resolution so that you can feel grounded in your partnership again.
“What everyone wants more than anything else is to be loved.”
–Ella Fitzgerald
Couples therapy can help with…
Infidelity
One of the most painful experiences in a relationship involves the loss of trust that comes with infidelity. Couples therapy will explore the context around which the infidelity occurred, how it has impacted each partner, and then focus on rebuilding trust and connection.
Sexuality and Intimacy
A couples’ sexual intimacy is often a neglected topic and yet it has such a large impact on our sense of connection to our partner and our satisfaction within the relationship. Couples therapy will explore in a safe and non-judgmental manner about who you are as a sexual couple and how to push through any barriers that are keeping either or both partners from a level of fulfillment.
Communication
Explore your communication strengths as a couple as well as where communication tends to fall off course and leave you feeling disconnected and frustrated. Learn skills and tools to better express your own needs and better listen to your partner’s needs.
Conflict Management
Conflict in a relationship is a frequent source of frustration and dissatisfaction. Couples therapy will help develop your skills in expressing yourself effectively while also improving your skills in honoring your partner’s views. Discover ways to use conflict as a way to grow together in your relationship.
Discernment
For couples who are considering divorce, couples therapy can explore the state of the relationship that brought you to this juncture. Partners will develop greater clarity in what they want for the marriage going forward and to either commit to repair and healing or to prepare for how to successfully transition toward separation.